Let's look at some of our behavior and explore what it provides us. Are crutches anything other than something for us to lean on: something that provides us with some form of security? If we were secure in ourselves, would we look externally for security? Then is it fair to say that crutches provide us with a false sense of security?
How much of what we do is done, hoping and wishing for a certain result?
How much of what we do is to fill a certain need or particular needs? How many of these hopes are realized - how many of them come true, thus making us feel secure? If we were really okay with ourselves, then would we want to do or have any of those things that provide us with supposed security?
Maybe not. Even so, consider how much of what we do in our everyday lives might fall into this category: doing things for the security they supposedly provide us.
Let's consider the following behavior. Say we do something for someone else, perhaps to be in that person's good graces. Then to be in that person's good graces gives us something - most likely, some security.
Say we amass wealth so we can consider ourselves as "having arrived" or to have status. Is this newly found status, or "having arrived," a form of making us feel secure? And again, if this is the case, then if we were already secure within ourselves, would we have pursued accumulating wealth?
Say we associate with a certain person because we feel that person understands us, and without that person, we wouldn't have anyone else who understands us. Through this association, we feel secure within ourselves. Again, if we were already secure within ourselves, would we then have this association?
Like associating with certain people, or our expensive house, luxurious car, or "status job." Not just because we need those for what they are - for example, the car is for transportation - but for the security they provide us.
Should you exhibit this behavior, is this not clear indication that these things didn't really serve you? That they instead provided you with a false sense of security, which you wouldn't have needed if you uncovered your own inner security?
How much of what we do is done, hoping and wishing for a certain result?
How much of what we do is to fill a certain need or particular needs? How many of these hopes are realized - how many of them come true, thus making us feel secure? If we were really okay with ourselves, then would we want to do or have any of those things that provide us with supposed security?
Maybe not. Even so, consider how much of what we do in our everyday lives might fall into this category: doing things for the security they supposedly provide us.
Let's consider the following behavior. Say we do something for someone else, perhaps to be in that person's good graces. Then to be in that person's good graces gives us something - most likely, some security.
Say we amass wealth so we can consider ourselves as "having arrived" or to have status. Is this newly found status, or "having arrived," a form of making us feel secure? And again, if this is the case, then if we were already secure within ourselves, would we have pursued accumulating wealth?
Say we associate with a certain person because we feel that person understands us, and without that person, we wouldn't have anyone else who understands us. Through this association, we feel secure within ourselves. Again, if we were already secure within ourselves, would we then have this association?
Like associating with certain people, or our expensive house, luxurious car, or "status job." Not just because we need those for what they are - for example, the car is for transportation - but for the security they provide us.
Should you exhibit this behavior, is this not clear indication that these things didn't really serve you? That they instead provided you with a false sense of security, which you wouldn't have needed if you uncovered your own inner security?
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